What makes a host family fabulous?
And, how is a fabulous host family different from a pretty-good host family?
From what I’ve seen, all fabulous host families demonstrate three core characteristics:
1. Fabulous Host Families Demonstrate Clarity
— A fabulous host family knows what they need for a great family- au pair relationship. And, they know why they need what they need.
The more you can clarify what you want (e.g., athleticism, language skills, adventure attitude) and the more you understand why you want it (e.g., keep kids active, develop a family’s second language, be fun while traveling) the easier it is for you to find an au pair that fits these needs. You’ll be able to identify characteristics and skills that are critical, and those that are less important.
2. Fabulous Host Families Demonstrate Flexibility
— A fabulous host family demonstrates flexibility when little things and big things come up. Flexible families are able to find many different solutions to help them and their au pair achieve what’s most important.
Once you have clarity, you need flexibility. You need flexibility to adapt to the specifics of your au pair, to the changing needs of your kids, and to the evolution and maturation of your au pair-host family relationships over time. Flexibility helps you and your au pair connect across differences, work out disagreements, and move past disappointments. Flexibility allows you to grow.
3. Fabulous Host Families Demonstrate Positivity
— Fabulous host families demonstrate a positive orientation.
Fabulous host families can always find a way to follow the advice of my hero Tim Gunn and “make it work”.
Fabulous families demonstrate positivity by looking for the silver lining in every storm. Because they positively expect a silver lining to be there, they find one. A positive host family creates opportunities where others would see problems. The high hopes, high spirits, and ‘can do’ attitude of a fabulous host family are infectious. Their positive orientation buoys the family and the au pair.
Are there other qualities that you think separate a fabulous family from a merely good one?
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