Haven’t we all wished for someone else to do our Algebra homework?
That’s normal. What’s not so normal, though, is to ask your au pair to do your 17 year old’s homework.
This situation is a little outside our usual boundaries, because the au pair is in Europe (US rules don’t apply), because she has been with her host family for 2 years already, and because she’s already helping to teach the younger child. However, the general question is still interesting:
What’s an Au Pair to do, when a host parent/ host child expects the au pair to do the homework for the child?
I have been au pairing for a family for two and a half years now. The girl is 17 and goes to school, and the boy is 14 but I am his homeschool tutor.
Recently, the mother asked me to help the girl with homework. I had no problem with this as I am good at teaching. However, she also asked me to write some speeches for an English project and complete homework for the girl, because her daughter had too much ‘other’ work to do.
As I said earlier, I have no problem ‘helping’ with homework, but I do have a problem with actually ‘doing’ the girl’s homework for her. I let the mom know that I couldn’t possibly do the actual homework for the girl.
The mother got really upset and threatened to hire someone else if I didn’t comply. I am stuck because I don’t want to lose my job, but at the same time I feel it is wrong to ask me as the au pair to complete homework for the kids.
Please give me some advice on how to handle the situation? I do love my job, but I can’t go against my values as an au pair. ~ CC
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